Due to personal issues, I might have to revisit the acceptance of the Research Assistantship offered at Small College Town University. I would like to know when I need to inform you if I cannot attend next fall. I apologize for any inconvenience this may cause.
S/he officially decline last week:
Thank you for the great opportunity to be part of Small College Town University. However, I am sorry that my personal situation requires me to be closer to home and my family next year. Therefore I will not be able to attend Small College Town University in the fall. I apologize again for the inconvenience. I wish you all the best for next year.
Here is my reply:
I'm disappointed that you won't be joining us next year, but really appreciate you giving me plenty of advanced notice. I hope that you and your family are OK and that things work out well for you.
Well, this student had friended me on Facebook as soon as s/he received the offer in February. Today I saw an update:
Flakey Student is now a member of the Neighboring State University network. (As in Grad Student NSU '10)
I am so pissed off. His/her emails made it sound like there were serious family issues going on- not that s/he had received a better offer. This really leaves me in a bind. I sent out another offer to an international student over the weekend and gave him/her a week to respond. If I don't hear anything I will have to advertise again, but this late- most people have already committed to other things for next year. Is it bad to wish bad things for this person's career??? (OK- I know the answer to that one...) btw- s/he is the first person I've ever unfriended on Facebook!